in case you forgot
you are deserving
of the love
you've wasted
on men who weren't
man enough
to love you the right way
---
you deserve the love
you give
even if you have
to give it to yourself
me described by my full name .....
You are very open. You communicate well, and you connect with other people easily.
You are a naturally creative person. Ideas just flow from your mind.
A true chameleon, you are many things at different points in your life. You are very adaptable.
You are truly an original person. You have amazing ideas, and the power to carry them out.
Success comes rather easily for you... especially in business and academia.
Some people find you to be selfish and a bit overbearing. You're a strong person.
You are friendly, charming, and warm. You get along with almost everyone.
You work hard not to rock the boat. Your easy going attitude brings people together.
At times, you can be a little flaky and irresponsible. But for the important things, you pull it together.
You are wild, crazy, and a huge rebel. You're always up to something.
You have a ton of energy, and most people can't handle you. You're very intense.
You definitely are a handful, and you're likely to get in trouble. But your kind of trouble is a lot of fun.
You tend to be pretty tightly wound. It's easy to get you excited... which can be a good or bad thing.
You have a lot of enthusiasm, but it fades rather quickly. You don't stick with any one thing for very long.
You have the drive to accomplish a lot in a short amount of time. Your biggest problem is making sure you finish the projects you start.
You are usually the best at everything ... you strive for perfection.
You are confident, authoritative, and aggressive.
You have the classic "Type A" personality.
You are very intuitive and wise. You understand the world better than most people.
You also have a very active imagination. You often get carried away with your thoughts.
You are prone to a little paranoia and jealousy. You sometimes go overboard in interpreting signals.
You are confident, self assured, and capable. You are not easily intimidated.
You master any and all skills easily. You don't have to work hard for what you want.
You make your life out to be exactly how you want it. And you'll knock down anyone who gets in your way!
You are deeply philosophical and thoughtful. You tend to analyze every aspect of your life.
You are intuitive, brilliant, and quite introverted. You value your time alone.
Often times, you are grumpy with other people. You don't appreciate them trying to interfere in your affairs.
Take a break from the laundry and cooking to see what the hidden meaning of your name is
Take a break from the laundry and cooking to see what the hidden meaning of your name is
why can't we be more than friends?
She done cut me off from a good good love
She told me that those days were gone
Now I'm sitting here going half crazy
I know she still thinks about me too
There ain’t no way in hell, that I can be just friends with you
I wish we never did it
I wish we never loved it
I wish I never felt so deep in love with you and now ain't no way we can be friends.
The way it felt, no faking it
Maybe we were moving just a little too fast
What we've done we can’t take it back
Now I’m sitting here half way crazy
Ain't no telling’ what we could have been,
Ain't telling what we could've been
If I knew it would end like this
I never would have kissed ya, 'cause I fell in love with ya
We never would've kicked it, 'cause now everything's different
I lost my only lover and my friend that's why I wished we never did it
((Trey Songz, Can't be Friends))
Delete her number.
Stop ringing her. Stop messaging her. Stop making excuses to see her, to drop by her place.
Erase her name from memory. Remove yourself from her life, more completely than you would like but as completely as she deserves. Move on, so that you can allow her to also move on. When you close your eyes, you don’t get to see her face. Not anymore. You don’t get to think about her lips, the warm glow of her skin when she rests next to you, or how she squeezes your hand in her sleep. You are not allowed to remember the smell of her perfume, that she only drinks mint tea (with two dollops of honey), or that she loves you.
She loves you.
She has been in love with you for too long.
So, forget how she says your name. Forget how she calls your name. Forget how she screams your name. Forget that time you got sick and she stayed up with you all night, letting you lay your head in her lap and holding a cold compress to your forehead. Forget how her hair feels in your fingers. Forget how she looks in your sweatshirts.
Forget her.
Know only that she existed at one point in your life, but relinquish all hope that she could exist at another point — sometime in the future that you are unwilling to specify because you don’t know what you want. Yet. It is not fair for you to swoop in and out of her life as you choose. It is not fair for you to say that you are satisfied with “things as they are” and you will have time to “figure it out” later. Let her stop investing emotionally in you. Let her pour that love and care into the people who deserve her.
Don’t tell her that you think about her all the time. Don’t tell her that it bothers you to hear about her with other people, but that you’re willing to understand as long as she likes you more than them. Don’t tell her that this isn’t the right moment but that there will be a right moment. There is not going to be a right moment. She shouldn’t have to wait for the right moment.
Don’t tell her that you can’t handle ultimatums, that you don’t like the idea of finally adding finality to your relationship — whatever still remains of it.
What you are telling her is that you want to keep her on as an option, that you are taking her for granted, that you want to know she will be there, that you can depend on her at the end of the day. When you find that no one else has stuck around or that those who have are less interesting, less thoughtful, or less doggedly loyal to you.
Doggedly loyal to you.
That is what she has been to you, for you almost as long as you have known her: a constant emotional crutch, the guarantee of stability, a safety net while you reach out to grasp objects that sparkle and shine far greater than she does. All that glitters is not gold, haven’t you heard?
She is fire. You are ice, and you are afraid that her slow burn will smolder your cool, hard demeanor. That’s what has driven your decisions, your actions all along: fear. You are a coward. You are a hypocrite. You are terrified to let her go, but you are afraid she is too good for you, that she could drive you wild, that you would choke on her flames. That she is too much for you to handle right now.
Right now.
But if you choose not to love her now, you can’t choose to love her later. — Lauren Hooper
A SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP
An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye."
Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.
Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.
Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?
Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.
If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.
Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong?
Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).
Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email.
Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless.
Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.
The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the i.
By Rev. Ronald McFadden
I lika a Man who ....
• can teach me something
• is confident but not arrogant
• commands respect
• is an optimist
• is not stuck in the past...who did/said what to him, etc.
• has varied interests
• appreciates the security of stability and strong relationships
• has a great sense of humor and doesn't take things too seriously
• treats others well
• is friendly/sociable
• is creative and has a vivid imagination
• respects the value of mutual compromise
• is sincere
• is encouraging
• is dependable
• is consistent
• talks about something other than his past or himself...all...the...time...
• handles pressure/stressful situations without letting others see him sweat
• understands that honesty may make him slightly vulnerable but never weak
• embraces his roles as a provider and protector
Have you forgotten me, she asks?
Do you not remember our long walks under unforgiving October suns
Barefoot – the baking earth melting our soles
I miss your grandmas cucumber
A perfect heat remedy
Or how she sealed her wisdom in a jar of peanut butter
Every spoon full making your bones remember the song of your birth
And did I not pour all of times sands into you
Using my hands
Also borrowing all three hands of time
To massage and rub honey and warmth into making you spread your wings
Yet today you tell me to leave
You say you are an unfortunate lover
She says, what is this new song you sing?
Chorused with a cacophony of apologies
Forget the dreams we forged but do not forget my name
For my tears will testify against you
And my tongue will tell of the ways you made home in thighs
How you made my body quiver
I tell her our love was young
Little did I know hearts do not number days as minds do
And my heart was an unreachable mainland
I kept an archipelagos of lovers
This is what I thought made me a king…
“her forgot me not” by tapiwa mugabe
Let 2016 be the year you let go of others perceptions of you and become who you know yourself to be. Go wild, be crazy, get sexy, be funny, be bold, let yourself go and discover a brand new world within yourself. Be brave enough to bring this world to life. That is what life is all about!
~ Mastin Kipp
Our intimacy feels so familiar, so right, so real
Its where we want to be
Its where we were meant to be
Its what we both need
however when its time to leave - you've never asked me to stay.
"Its because of Her" you say
"Her?" (blank stare/mass confusion)
"Yes there has always been a Her"
(Light bulb, blonde moment) that's why you've never asked me to stay.
Fck you
truth is
I make mistakes.
I have flaws. My being is comprised of imperfections. They are buried deep within me.
I am insecure, and complex, and fragile, and sensitive.
I desperately hope that no one can tell.
Some mornings I am self conscious and look at my body with disapproval and disdain. I hide my gap toothed smile.
I cross my arms so you can not see the way I have chewed my nails almost to the bone.
I am anxious.
I spend lots of time in the darkness and lurking in my own shadows.
I am… afraid.
On occasion, I am not brave. I do not possess the strength you assume.
I sometimes say the wrong things.
I avoid sharing the concealed parts of me.
I cry…a lot.
I won’t admit it, but some nights I just want to fall in love.
I am confused, and frustrated, and lost and discouraged.
I am often worried about the future and sometimes resentful of the past.
I am abstract.
I am intense.
I am depthless; yet shallow. I am courageous; yet fearful. I am loud; yet unheard. I am beautiful; yet offensive.
I am gathered; but in shambles.
I am chaos. I am order. I am all of these things and none.
I am a contradiction.
I am a woman.
I am only human.
I am me and my beauty lies in the simplicity of my complexity.
(www.themoxiemodus.com)
I pity the woman who will love you
when I am done. She will show up
to your first date with a dustpan
and broom, ready to pick up all the pieces
I left you in. She will hear my name so often
it will begin to dig holes in her. That
is where doubt will grow. She will look
at your neck, your thin hips, your mouth,
wondering at the way I touched you.
She will make you all the promises I did
and some I never could. She will hear only
the terrible stories. How I drank. How I lied.
She will wonder (as I have) how someone
as wonderful as you could love a monster
like the woman who came before her. Still,
she will compete with my ghost.
She will understand why you do not look
in the back of closets. Why you are afraid
of what’s under the bed. She will know
every corner of you is haunted
by me.
Clementine von Radics
running ...
Because I always feel like running
Not away, because there is no such place
Because, if there was I would have found it by now
Because it's easier to run
Easier than staying and finding out you're the only one
Who didn't run
Because running will be the way your life and mine
Will be described
As in "the long run"
Or as in having given someone a "run for his money"
Or as in "running out of time"
Because running makes me look like everyone else
Though I hope there will never be cause for that
Because I will be running in the other direction
Not running for cover
Because if I knew where cover was
I would stay there and never have to run for it
Not running for my life
Because I have to be running for something of more value
To be running and not in fear
Because the thing I fear cannot be escaped
Eluded, avoided, hidden from, protected from, gotten away from
Not without showing the fear as I see it now
Because closer, clearer, no sir, nearer
Because you of you and because of that nice
That you quietly, quickly be causing
And because you're going to see me run soon
And because you're going to know why I'm running then
You'll know then
Because I'm not going to tell you now
― Gil Scott-Heron, Now and Then...
and those are my issues
I know I'm easy going and a lot laid back ...
not to make up excuses but past experiences, insecurities, uncertainties, disappointments and most of all fear - fear of failure, fear of criticism; have left a bitter taste in my mouth when it comes to a "love love relationship"
I had gotten into a routine that I was quite comfortable with.
now that I've found myself here, I'm just a bit hesitant, reluctant and scared.
those are my issues.
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