The easiest thing in the world is to be you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position.
Promise yourself to accept life as it comes
and truly make each day special~~
to become more independent and more
willing to change ~~
to fill your life with special times,
and make your dreams come true.
~~~Deanna Beisser
(Promise Yourself)
I PROMISE
thoughts, prayers, love and light to those who lost loved ones this year ***never forget***
It’s the century’s last sequential date. For some, it represents luck (good or bad). For others, it’s a day of romance, engagements, weddings. For the rest of us, it’s just another Wednesday.
Regardless of your beliefs, enjoy your day!!!!!
being a parent is the most challenging, back breaking, completely daunting, you will never ever be fully prepared thing you can ever commit to....
"Be kinder than necessary because everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle." That quote is so good I wish I had written it myself but I didn’t, but for the longest time I've always identified with it and through this little reminder I am quicker to offer a smile when I make eye contact with strangers and generally more patient and kind.
A NYC Taxi driver wrote:
I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I honked again. Since this was going to be my last ride of my shift I thought about just driving away, but instead I put the car in park and walked up to the door and knocked.
"Just a minute", answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.
After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90′s stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940′s movie. By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware. ‘Would you carry my bag out to the car?’ she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, and then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness. ‘It’s nothing’, I told her ‘I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother to be treated."
“Oh, you’re such a good boy,” she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, ‘Could you drive through downtown?’ “It’s not the shortest way,” I answered quickly.
“Oh, I don’t mind,” she said. “I’m in no hurry. I’m on my way to a hospice.”
I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. ‘I don’t have any family left,’ she continued in a soft voice. “The doctor says I don’t have very long.’ I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.
‘What route would you like me to take?’ I asked.
For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl. Sometimes she’d ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.
As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, “I’m tired. Let’s go now.”
We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a Small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her. I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.
‘How much do I owe you?’ She asked, reaching into her purse.
‘Nothing,’ I said
‘You have to make a living,’ she answered.
‘There are other passengers,’ I responded.
Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.
‘You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,’ she said.’ Thank you.’
I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.
I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once then driven away?
The point of the above story is to encourage you to be kinder than necessary to the people you meet. We are never too busy to be kind.
A good character is the best tombstone. Those who loved you and were helped by you will remember you when forget-me-nots have withered. Carve your name on hearts, not on marble.
~Charles H. Spurgeon
I done been through some painful things
I thought that I'd never make it through
Filled up with shame from the top of my head to the souls of my shoes
I've put myself in so many chaotic circumstances
By the Grace of God
I've been given so many second chances
But today I decided to let it all go
I'm dropping these bags I'm makin room for my joy
~I Choose, India Arie
God's mercies are new every morning and His grace is sufficient for me today. I think sometimes I try to do lots of days worth of things in one day, when all I'm required to do is today's work. When I focus on that, I have so much peace and I am really able to say that His grace is totally enough. I'm reminded of how God provided manna for the Israelites everyday. He didn't provide a week's worth in one day, but each day He provided exactly what they needed. He does that for us. He gives us exactly what we need for each day, which causes us each day to rely on Him and look to Him. In this I can truly say that His yoke is easy and His burden is light.
Study me as much as you like, you will not
know me, for I differ in a hundred ways from
what you see me to be.
Put yourself behind my eyes and see me as I
see myself, for I have chosen to dwell
in a place you cannot see.
-Rumi
Breast Cancer Awareness Month is that time of year where my Family look at our Blessing while remaining ThankFull and empathize with others. . .
perfection is a silly unattainable goal.I bawl, I pray, I cry, I occasionally crack a joke, but still I rise. It’s called being human and it’s all you ever can be. Having quirks, imperfections, personality traits and character flaws are a part of that. When you can admit to your own imperfections no one can use them against you.
“I don’t understand how a woman can leave the house without fixing herself up a little – if only out of politeness. And then, you never know, maybe that’s the day she has a date with destiny. And it’s best to be as pretty as possible for destiny.”
We all have 24 hours in a day but we’re promised none.
"you go back to her and I go back to, I go back to black"
".. and though I'm not ashamed but the guilt will kill you if she don't first"
In My Bed.
Stronger than Me.
Tears dry on their own.
She breathes. She mourns. She suffers. A part of her passes away. She rebuilds. She emerges. Timidly at first. Beautiful. Free. Enlightened. Happiness awaits like a faint light in the distance. And maybe she even still loves him, but she finally loves herself more.
"Nothing you do for children is ever wasted. They seem not to notice us, hovering, averting our eyes, and they seldom offer thanks, but what we do for them is never wasted." - Garrison Keillor
You pack all your moments in the bottom of your suitcase and cover them with your memories.
“Oooh! I know, I know! May I have some more disappointment and pain? and don’t forget the stress and anxiety, please.”
Lately I've been struggling, Spiritually and Emotionally. I have been thinking of what path I should take or the path that I am currently on – where is it leading me?
Hopefully I will soon find a balance.
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that's what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so out of control that you have to transform your life..."
- Elizabeth Gilbert, "Eat, Pray, Love"
I'd do anything for you, I'd stand out in the rain
Anything you want me to do, don't let it slip away
There's a quiet storm and it never felt like this before
There's a quiet storm, I think it's you
There's a quiet storm and I never felt this hot before
It's givin me somethin that's taboo
~ The Sweetest Taboo, Sade
A woman's loyalty is tested when her man has nothing .. A man's loyalty is tested when he has everything!
He holds on to the moments they spend together. He watches her open up and then shut down. Her inconsistency makes him want her even more. Something about her attention makes him feel super human, so he savors whatever she is willing to give. Deep down, he knows that she will never be his. So for as long as he can, he has decided to be where she needs him to be. It’s just a duty to her that he can't explain.
Motherhood is a task that at times does not seem equal to the super powers that I possess. It is a blessing, an honor, a cherished responsibility, a wondrous experience - but it can be overwhelming, challenging, and downright bone-wearying tired. It demands everything every second of the day. There are times when I feel like I've run out of anything to give. but in those moments God gently reassures me that they have a Heavenly Father who loves them to infinity and beyond. He will strengthen me and guide me as I raise my children in the knowledge of Him.
It seems like my birthday will be spent sending up prayers of thanks, eating lots of cake, reflecting, planning and preparing for good things to come for the New Year
Thank you, God, for giving me another year of life.
Thank you for all the people who remembered me today
by sending cards, and letters, gifts and good wishes.
Thank you for all the experience of this past year;
for times of success which will always be happy memories, for times of failure which reminded me of my own weakness and of my need for you,
for times of joy when the sun was shining,
for times of sadness which drove me to you.
Forgive me
for the hours I wasted,
for the chances I failed to take,
for the opportunities I missed this past year.
Help me in the days ahead to make this the best year yet, and through it to bring good credit to myself,
happiness and pride to my loved ones,
and joy to you. Amen.
I pick up pieces of me - piece by piece part by part.
Tomorrow a new day will unfold, Tomorrow - I will play a new part.
I once knew a little boy that used to be so happy, prayed everyday, believed in himself and no problems.
I once knew a little boy (that I don’t know anymore) he’s clothed in pain, drowned in tears and heartbreak and filled with self pity.
Sometimes, I wonder if you ever pause to take a deep breath.
"hello Fear before you sit down, there's something I need to explain"
This woman across the aisle from me at the Supermarket aggressively pulls her cart up to the line with two energetic, little boys in the cart. She is mumbling things under her breath and she moves a piece of hair back into her pony tail and throws her purse over her shoulder. I could feel the tension in the air.
She reaches into her cart and tosses down a box of Tampax and some donut holes.
I couldn't help but laugh in my head I so badly wanted to look her in the eyes and say, "this too shall pass," but you never know what could come back in return. So, I chose to remain silent.
It was borderline sitcom material ... I should know because I've been there before.
Sometimes something crappy happens between you and another person that leaves you feeling like ….crap…. When that happens to me (which is hardly ever) but when it does happen to me it makes me unspeakably sad and shaken to the core that this person now has a very low opinion of me.
Sometimes you can say sorry in a million different ways to infinity and that person will still not offer you forgiveness, so all you're left with is a void or a black hole.
Le sigh, at the end of the day whatever misunderstanding happened between you and that person you need to forgive yourself and move the eff on, simmering in this boosheet stew is going to drive you crazy. To use a cliche that is so true and on the money “what other people think of you is none of your business”
*Of course, someone not liking you does not automatically mean that they suck. Although isn't it nice to think so?*
1. I’m not a fan of clingy or needy people.
2. I think ignorance can be funny; sometimes.
3. don’t call me “stranger” conversations go both ways
4. I fear the dentist.
5. I’m annoyed when people blame things on the man.
6. I judge people who publicly litter or spit or burp, or blow their noses
7. In my head I’m sarcastic, snarky and rude.
8. Sometimes fear motivates me.
9. Do not accuse me of something - I just might go out and do it "just for the thrill"
10. I've killed you a million times in my head
My heart has heard you say “Come and talk with me"
and my heart responds “Lord, I am coming”
Psalm 27:8
"...it turns out that there are few things more chaotic than the beat of a human heart. its speeding up, slowing down. pretty face, flight of stairs. it's always changing depending on what's happening out there. it's an erratic son of {jay-walker}. but underneath all of that bump-da-bump mess, there is, in fact, a pattern - the truth. and it's love. the most important thing about love is that we choose to give it, and we choose to receive it - making it the least random act in the entire universe. it transcends blood; it transcends betrayal, and all the dirt that makes us human. if you can figure that out, the jake lees of the world have got nothing on you." - frank allen | chaos theory
I prayed for change, so I changed my mind.
I prayed for guidance and learned to trust myself.
I prayed for happiness and realized I am not my ego.
I prayed for peace and learned to accept others unconditionally.
I prayed for abundance and realized my doubt kept it out.
I prayed for wealth and realized it is my health.
I prayed for a miracle and realized I am the miracle.
I prayed for a soul mate and realized I am The One.
I prayed for love and realized it's always knocking, but I have to let it in."
he's not going to come over today and pull out the toys to play, or ask for something to drink, he won't help me pick up the toys or wipe up the drink he spilled. he's not going to ask me with his curious self "what are you doing"
I keep remembering that it's not going to happen. and every single time, the remembering makes me sad.
R.I.P. Aiden Cupid
"much, much stress results from your wanting to make things happen before their times have come. one of the main ways I assert "My" sovereignty is in the timing of events. if you want to stay close to "Me" and do things "My" way, ask "Me" to show you the path forward moment by moment. instead of dashing headlong toward your goal, let "Me" set the pace. slow down and enjoy the journey in My presence."
in the midsts of some things, it often looks like my life is so messy. like nothing I would ever want. and then God gives me a view from a distance, and my life becomes something of such grand value to me that I wonder how I could ever have wished for it to be something different.
"Assumptions are the death of any relationship"
If you think you know what is going on inside someone else's head, think again. We imagine that we have the power to read one another's mind, when all we are really doing is reading our own.
It's a great self-defense mechanism but no substitute for actual communication. The very best way to know what is really on someone's mind - ask them.
Make this day one of pampering yourself. Indulge in the romantic-comedy cliche' of a bubble bath by candlelight. Give yourself a pedicure. Buy a new shade of lipstick. Book a massage. Buy yourself flowers. Challenge the notion that roses and romance are only for those with significant others, and treat yourself to the little things that make you feel special - because you are. ~Jade Campbell
Only pure unadulterated anticipation can make a woman swoon over a stranger like that. Why wouldn’t she? She’s known him more than anyone can ever know him, this man she’s never met. He’s been existing in her head for years now, he appears more clearly in the nooks and corners of every part of her wandering heart.
She walks to her bedside table, switches on the small lamp, and confidently pulls out “The List” from the top drawer. Scrolling down the page with her eyes, she throws her head back, bursting into laughter. She’s in love with him, she cannot lie. Neither can she wait to meet this warrior of a man.
he puts family first
he is polite to his mother and respectful to his father
he has eyes for me only
he works hard
he is humble
he wants the best for me and our children
he does not swear in front of our children
his love for me and our children is unconditional
he is a human jungle gym for our children
he will find the time for our children
he helps with our children at bedtime
he is passionate about our family
he is a good leader
he is disciplined
he is not one to complain
I can trust his judgement
he does the right thing even when he does not want to
he tries to please me
he is organized
I can tell him my deepest secret
he does not judge me
he respects my past and knows I don't live there anymore
he heals me
he knows the real me
he accepts me
he shares his deepest secrets, dreams and hopes with me alone
he loves to get his hands dirty
he is adventurous
he is dependable
he takes command
he can sweet talk me
he is a saver
he is a spender
he encourages me
he can fix anything
he knows when to call a repairman
he is a cutie
he is a snuggler
he asks my opinion
he is in awe at our children
he is committed to our marriage
he is realistic
he surprises me with flowers and gifts
he compliments me
he is a good guy
even when I am wrong he is still kind
he chooses his words gently when I am upset
he is consistent
he cooks
he can clean
he is my all around "Handy Man"
he has simple tastes
he is attracted to me and only me
he has a sweet smile
he is passionate
he does not makes excuses
he knows me
he is a great bug killer
he will help with the laundry
he touches me in all the right ways, and in all the right places
he loves me as we get older
he is a good man but he strives to be better
he values my job as a wife and mother
he is encouraging to our children
he does not belittle me or our children
his eyes does not stray
he does not cheat on me
he does not drink (too much)
he never does drugs (only the OTC ones)
he gets whats important in life
he would do anything to keep me smiling
he would lay down his life for me and our children
his arms are protective
he is strong
he is a beautiful man
he is a phenomenal lover
he would rather be with me and our children than any where else
he pursues a relationship with God
he rolls with the punches
he is a trusted friend
he would give a stranger the shirt off of his back
he is honest
he is not a showoff
he has "it" together
he is always prepared
he is a great provider
he sees thing to be done and does it
he is creative
he calls if he is running late
he is a great hugger
he gives good back rubs
he is happy to work behind the scenes
he makes me laugh
he has a good heart
his kisses leave me breathless
his love leave me weak for more
he is honorable
he takes out the garbage
when he makes decisions he considers the needs of our family first
he is irresistible
he is kind
he has my heart and knows how to handle it with care
he is respected at work
he is a great boss
he is a good employee
he is a man of his word
he desires to be the best husband and father he can be
he is a good companion
he chose me
One day … and hopefully soon … this man she already loves will be hers to keep ….
She hasn’t met him yet, but someday she will.
be kinder than necessary cause everyone you meet has there personal demons.
goodbye Whitney I will always love you
The only genuine love worthy of a name is unconditional. ~John Powell
“Letting go is one of the major cornerstones of being set free. Make a decision to release whatever is holding you back. Don’t hang on to anything that is not empowering you to move forward.”
~Sue Augustine
“The winds that sometimes take something we love, are the same that bring us something we learn to love. Therefore we should not cry about something that was taken from us, but, yes, love what we have been given. Because what is really ours is never gone forever.” ~Bob Marley
"Helen, if I'm away from you for more than an hour, I can't stop thinking about you. I carry you in my spirit. I pray for you more than I pray for myself. I've got it so bad for you I'd... I'd go to the grocery store and buy your feminine products, I swear I would." - Orlando
Breathe. Close your eyes, clear all thoughts and embrace the moment you are in. No need to worry about tomorrow or the next day, for you might miss the opportunities that are staring you dead in the eye.
A rich pure voice and a style that reflects his songs; easy going and so humble, nt to mention easy on the eyes. such an unforgettable performance; he took me through every emotion imaginable *goosebumps* Love Love Love John Legend a girl can stil "dream, dream, dream ...."
I have a date with John Legend tonight ...... hmmmmm "everybody knows, but nobody really knows"
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love. We love because he first loved us. [1 John 4:18-19]
To make a happy home and family. To help family and friends. To get healthy and fit. To read. To learn. To just be. To have integrity in everything that I do To be thankful. To be patient. To be faithful. To set an example. To pray.
Pet Peeves are those anthills that you turn into mountains because it somehow presses your buttons and takes you on a first class trip to angryville.
I have a few pet peeves but one that really irks the fck out of me is “when someone blows their nose in my presence" – eff, eff now, excuse yourself and go lets say in the bathroom?
Its rare moments like these where I get the urge to step out of character, and slide tackle a crab upside their head. *woosah* zen habits don’t seem to cure these vile acts from getting under my skin …
A girl who lives, laughs and loves.
Nothing holding her down, she listens to her heart and stretches far to reach her dreams.
Placing all hopes and trust into something higher, she sees the light of inspiration and takes the leap of faith.
She is focused, determined, grounded and moving forward, never stopping to looking back.
She holds on to no frustration but thrives on every experience as growth.
She is beautiful. She is beautiful. She is beautiful.
She is YOU
"Keep your chin up. No one expected you to save the world, otherwise you would have been born wearing a cape and tights ... Just do the best you can".
"Gotta know, Is he out there some where, is he out there waiting for me, for me Is he out there some where, is he out there waiting for me ....."
My hair stylist was in a talkative mood today he said “You nice girl. You have boyfriend?”. “No”. “Why?” He seemed so bewildered and in shocked. I shrugged, still too traumatised to muster up an answer that wasn’t monosyllabic. “Anyway you young, got lots of time” I gave him a smile and he responded with a knowing laugh.
My policy is "Depend on no one". It isn't a very good policy but I've seen where people can be spiteful at times.
In no particular order ... *note to self*
1) Preserve your sexy All women need to preserve their sexy. Not for men, but for themselves. The more you preserve your sexy and embrace yourself ... the more attractive you become. It's a virtuous cycle.
2) If "he's not that into you" ... find someone else or remain content with yourself
3) Raise your standards. Apparently women are too picky. Myth! We're not picky enough. I personally think all women should raise the bar. Expect more! Expect more respect, more kindness, more love, more cake, more *insert virtue*
4) Become More If we expect more, we’ve got to become more. Want more respect? Be more respectful. Expect more love? Be more loving.
5) Don't tell ALL your friends Everyone doesn't need to know what's going in your love life. Know what to keep to yourself.
6) Own Your Power You can not pretend to be anything less than you are. You are so huge. You can’t go around dimming your light just to be walking with someone else. What you really want is to be completely full of yourself so that your cup runneth over so you give it to other people. Not in an arrogant way but so that you absolutely own your own power. OWN YOUR OWN POWER! ~Oprah Winfrey
7) Take each day as it comes and enjoy the moment
I dont offer advice. EVER. I use to but now *bleh*
5 reasons why I don’t give advice:
1. 99.99% of the time the person who wants the advice knows exactly what they are going to do anyway.
2. People will generally use the advise you give them to counter-criticize you. Yes I have been called self-righteous and judgmental.
3. People generally don’t want advice; they want a sounding board.
4. Your advice could be wrapped in hundred dollar bills … if a person isn’t ready to receive the life lesson they won’t get it.
5. Sometimes giving advice is like the equivalent of peddling bullshit. Often times where something may have worked for you; it won’t work with others.
Experience. Dream. Risk. Close your eyes and jump. Enjoy the free fall. Choose exhilaration over comfort. Choose magic over predictability. Choose potential over safety. Wake up to the magic of everyday life. Make friends with your intuition. Trust your gut. Discover the beauty of uncertainty. Know yourself fully before you make promises to another. Make millions of mistakes so that you will know how to choose what you really need. Know when to hold on and when to let go. Love hard and often and without reservation. Seek knowledge. Open yourself to possibility. Keep your heart open, your head high and your spirit free. Embrace your darkness along with your light. Be wrong every once and a while, and don’t be afraid to admit it. Awaken to the brilliance in ordinary moments. Tell the truth about yourself no matter what the cost. Own your reality without apology. See goodness in the world. Be Bold Be Fierce. Be Grateful. Be Wild, Crazy and Gloriously Free. Be You.
