Sometimes we begin to fall for the person who has been our rock during a hard time, someone we have known for years, someone that we feel comfortable with for various reasons such as: they have respected boundaries and really stuck around without any expectations other than to just be there for you when all you needed was a friend, they know some of your best and worst qualities and still want to be around you, they have heard the stories both good and bad and do not pass judgment on you, and they are already familiar with your personality strengths and weakness and understand you pretty well, so it is not surprising that one day you might wake up and see your friend in a new light.
So what now?
“To think, all those years of dating the wrong guys and the right one was under your nose the whole time”
The Power of Me
Current mood: artistic
There is a power that I possess.
I have realised that how I meander through life depends entirely on my perception, my dependence on God, my thinking.
The Power of ME.
I can only depend completely on me to believe in myself.
Only I can have hope for me.
I am the one who faces my trials and I have to pool my resources and find the strength to get through.
Only I can push myself - no one can do that for me.
I am the only one who truly feels and knows the ins and outs of my situation.
I have the choice to either be beaten down or to find it somewhere in the deep dark abyss of despair to believe and be resilient.
There is this power and I can either claim it or not .... but that is entirely my decision
There is a power that I possess.
I have realised that how I meander through life depends entirely on my perception, my dependence on God, my thinking.
The Power of ME.
I can only depend completely on me to believe in myself.
Only I can have hope for me.
I am the one who faces my trials and I have to pool my resources and find the strength to get through.
Only I can push myself - no one can do that for me.
I am the only one who truly feels and knows the ins and outs of my situation.
I have the choice to either be beaten down or to find it somewhere in the deep dark abyss of despair to believe and be resilient.
There is this power and I can either claim it or not .... but that is entirely my decision
Starting this day
Current mood: determined
It's amazing how different one's life can be from one day to the next...
We go through the motions with the hopes of finding contentment at the very least! When you are young you dream about the life you want but it never occurs to you that it won't turn out that way. It is up to you to dream your own fairy tale and take control of your destiny.
Starting this day, I will think selfishly.
Starting this day, I will not let any one dictate my life.
Starting this day, I am my own woman.
It's amazing how different one's life can be from one day to the next...
We go through the motions with the hopes of finding contentment at the very least! When you are young you dream about the life you want but it never occurs to you that it won't turn out that way. It is up to you to dream your own fairy tale and take control of your destiny.
Starting this day, I will think selfishly.
Starting this day, I will not let any one dictate my life.
Starting this day, I am my own woman.
One day
...you will be next in line for {insert major life event}.
...you will have your own house & make whatever rules you want.
...he will realize what he's missing out on.
...you will forget how crappy of a day that you're having.
...you will see that all your sacrifices were all worth it.
...you will see all of your hard work pay off.
...you will look back and realize things worked out for the best.
...you will have your own house & make whatever rules you want.
...he will realize what he's missing out on.
...you will forget how crappy of a day that you're having.
...you will see that all your sacrifices were all worth it.
...you will see all of your hard work pay off.
...you will look back and realize things worked out for the best.
Good Black Men
Good Black Men are indeed all around us. We pass them on the streets, in the malls, and the halls at work. Most we can’t see because we don’t know what a good man really looks like. He usually isn’t flashy enough or rich enough to turn our heads. He might not wear a suit or push a Lexus. He might not have a body like Tyson with a Denzel face. But, as you mature, you realize it’s better to find someone who’s got your back rather than someone who turns your head.
A good man doesn’t agree wholeheartedly with everything you say. He doesn’t just tell you what you want to hear and do the opposite. He doesn’t declare how sensitive, sweet, caring, sincere, etc. he is (he won’t have to because it shows). He has his own opinions and yours may clash, but he doesn’t have to degrade you to prove he’s right. He even admits at times to being wrong, especially if you are willing to do the same.
A good man is not going to meet every item on your checklist. He is human with frailties and faults mixed in with all of his wonderful, strong attributes. He needs your love and respect. He needs to feel that you don’t live to catch him doing something wrong so you can declare, “Aha! I knew you were a dog!”
A good man isn’t insecure about his woman having great achievements. In fact, he is her number one supporter and becomes disappointed with her when she begins to lose herself, especially for the sake of not hurting his feelings, or only wanting to make him happy. His happiness comes with seeing her excel in her dreams and accomplishing her goals. For as she excels and is exalted, a good woman will bring her good man right along with her.
A good man doesn’t necessarily give you a huge birthday or Valentine’s gift. He shows his love in the ways that are comfortable to him. Don’t judge him by TV standards. No one is really living a fairy tale. You’ll miss out on your own fairy tale by buying into the myth that our men are no good. It’s just not true.
A good black man is a man of his word. He says what he means and means what he says. His word is his bond. He never leaves you wondering if he is going to call or show up - he is dependable. A good black man has a love and a heart for God. As his relationship and love with and for God grows so will his relationship and love with and for you grow…Our beautiful black men we salute you, appreciate you and thank you for who you are and all you’ve done.
-author unknown
Conceptual. Factual. Me.
I can honestly and truly say that I am finding my happy place. It was there all along, I just had to choose to be am happy. If given a choice between happiness and sadness, I'm sure you would choose to be happy too, but will you? Do you?
I now realize that for me to become who I am, I had to first experience what I am not. I had to endure pain and discomfort to desire happiness and security. If I hadn't been tested by the trials of life, I would be complacent and never desire growth or change on a physical level or a spiritual level. Let me be the first to tell you, life has dished out some tough experiences that had my soul trapped in hell and kept me sobbing profusely.
What has changed? My perspective. My experiences have been there to show me who it is that I really am. It took realizing this to escape from my self tormenting hell. I have broken the shackles of my soul from the ball and chain of my mind. I am now free to experience living without feeling like the world is out to get me. I am now free to make choices between two things without feeling that one is right or wrong. I now look at things by what it will do to help me grow as a person in order to experience all that life has to offer me, rather than what worldy desires I can gain out of it. I spend my days searching to discover and rediscover who I am and who I want to be.
I like to say that I'm a girl who is habitually vague. Somewhat accomplished. Somewhat a failure. Gave birth to a pyschic and a hell raiser, and sometimes it looks like I'm in complete control.
But really Who am I? I am a fountain of knowledge. I am unique and intriguing. I am curious and searching. I am a student, a mother, a daughter, a friend, a confidant, a survivor, and a teacher. I am honest and real. I am a great person. I am in love with myself. I am enjoying life. I am aware of my being. I am in tune with my soul. I am engaged with life. I am fond of pain. I am interested in hurt. I am enthrawled with risk. I am challenged by anger. I am relentless against denial. I am capable of anything. I am eagar for the future. I am hopeful for everyone. I am excited by experience. I am pleased with my growth. I live. I love. I learn. Who do I want to be? The best me I possibly can! Nothing more, nothing less!
I am forever learning. I am an expression of God.
I now realize that for me to become who I am, I had to first experience what I am not. I had to endure pain and discomfort to desire happiness and security. If I hadn't been tested by the trials of life, I would be complacent and never desire growth or change on a physical level or a spiritual level. Let me be the first to tell you, life has dished out some tough experiences that had my soul trapped in hell and kept me sobbing profusely.
What has changed? My perspective. My experiences have been there to show me who it is that I really am. It took realizing this to escape from my self tormenting hell. I have broken the shackles of my soul from the ball and chain of my mind. I am now free to experience living without feeling like the world is out to get me. I am now free to make choices between two things without feeling that one is right or wrong. I now look at things by what it will do to help me grow as a person in order to experience all that life has to offer me, rather than what worldy desires I can gain out of it. I spend my days searching to discover and rediscover who I am and who I want to be.
I like to say that I'm a girl who is habitually vague. Somewhat accomplished. Somewhat a failure. Gave birth to a pyschic and a hell raiser, and sometimes it looks like I'm in complete control.
But really Who am I? I am a fountain of knowledge. I am unique and intriguing. I am curious and searching. I am a student, a mother, a daughter, a friend, a confidant, a survivor, and a teacher. I am honest and real. I am a great person. I am in love with myself. I am enjoying life. I am aware of my being. I am in tune with my soul. I am engaged with life. I am fond of pain. I am interested in hurt. I am enthrawled with risk. I am challenged by anger. I am relentless against denial. I am capable of anything. I am eagar for the future. I am hopeful for everyone. I am excited by experience. I am pleased with my growth. I live. I love. I learn. Who do I want to be? The best me I possibly can! Nothing more, nothing less!
I am forever learning. I am an expression of God.
Thank you, Heath...
Thank you for portraying The Joker as he was meant to be portrayed.
Thank you for breaking away from the campy, comic character as previously represented by Jack Nicholson in the movies and Cesar Romero on television.
Instead, you presented to us The Joker as he was meant to be represented- a sociopathic, sadistic, damaged soul at war with the world after making peace with his demons - a man who fell into the abyss of madness and found it far too comfortable to bother finding his way out.
I hope you've found that peace you were looking for.
Bravo.
Be Someone
Be someone who listens, and you will be heard. Be someone who cares,
and you will be loved. Be someone who gives, and you will be blessed. Be
someone who comforts, and you will know peace.
Be someone who genuinely seeks to understand, and you will be wise. Be
someone kind, someone considerate, and you will be admired. Be someone
who values truth, and you will be respected. Be someone who takes
action, and you will move life forward.
Be someone who lifts others higher, and your life will be rich. Be someone
filled with gratitude, and there will be no end to the things for which
you'll be thankful.
Be someone who lives with joy, with purpose, as your own light brightly
shines. Be, in every moment, the special someone you are truly meant to
be.
-- Ralph Marston
and you will be loved. Be someone who gives, and you will be blessed. Be
someone who comforts, and you will know peace.
Be someone who genuinely seeks to understand, and you will be wise. Be
someone kind, someone considerate, and you will be admired. Be someone
who values truth, and you will be respected. Be someone who takes
action, and you will move life forward.
Be someone who lifts others higher, and your life will be rich. Be someone
filled with gratitude, and there will be no end to the things for which
you'll be thankful.
Be someone who lives with joy, with purpose, as your own light brightly
shines. Be, in every moment, the special someone you are truly meant to
be.
-- Ralph Marston
Diary of a Mad Black Woman
I love this movie I love this movie. Funny as hell, but also good for the soul. A few of my favourite lines:
"WIRE HANGERS!!!!!!!!!" - Madea
"I'm not bitter! I'm mad as hell!" - Helen
"... the strength God gave women to survive. You just haven't tapped into it yet." - Myrtie Jean
"... I'm finding myself smiling and laughing. I'm finding myself... wait, that's it. I'm finding myself." - Helen
"Why you being so mean, woman?" "Why you being so NICE, man?" - Orlando and Helen
"The key is to be tough, not hard." - Orlando
"Love is stronger than any addiction. Hell, it is one." - Madea
"I do know I can love you past your pain." - Orlando
"Just wake up in the morning. That's all you have to do. And I'll take it from there..." - Orlando
"I'm going to let you sit here for a few days and think about what I said." Helen to paralyzed Charles in his wheelchair
"When somebody hurt you they take power over you. You don't forgive them, they keep that power." Myrtie Jean
"You think you over something? You thing you're ready to get on with your life? This is how you really find out if you're over someone: If you get the opportunity to get even with someone and you don't take it, then you're over it. But if you don't. And you beat the hell outta him, you ain't over it yet." - Madea
"God has the power to show you who's God." - Charles
"No matter what you're going through. Take it to the Master, and he'll see you right on through." - Choir
"Gentle as doves, but wise as serpents." - Tyler Perry
"Sometimes we hold on to the things that God himself is trying to tear apart." - Tyler Perry
"Helen, if I'm away from you for more than an hour, I can't stop thinking about you. I carry you in my spirit. I pray for you more than I pray for myself. I've got it so bad for you I'd... I'd go to the grocery store and buy your feminine products, I swear I would." - Orlando
"I know you don't believe in fairy tales. But, if you did, I'd want to be your knight in shining armor. You've been through so much. I don't want to see you hurt anymore. Now I may not be able to give you all that your used to. But I do know I can love you past your pain. I don't want you to worry about anything. You just wake up in the morning, that's all you have to do and I'll take it from there. There's one condition. You have to be my wife." Orlando to Helen
"Signed a Mad Black Woman"
I love this movie I love this movie I love this movie I love this movie
"WIRE HANGERS!!!!!!!!!" - Madea
"I'm not bitter! I'm mad as hell!" - Helen
"... the strength God gave women to survive. You just haven't tapped into it yet." - Myrtie Jean
"... I'm finding myself smiling and laughing. I'm finding myself... wait, that's it. I'm finding myself." - Helen
"Why you being so mean, woman?" "Why you being so NICE, man?" - Orlando and Helen
"The key is to be tough, not hard." - Orlando
"Love is stronger than any addiction. Hell, it is one." - Madea
"I do know I can love you past your pain." - Orlando
"Just wake up in the morning. That's all you have to do. And I'll take it from there..." - Orlando
"I'm going to let you sit here for a few days and think about what I said." Helen to paralyzed Charles in his wheelchair
"When somebody hurt you they take power over you. You don't forgive them, they keep that power." Myrtie Jean
"You think you over something? You thing you're ready to get on with your life? This is how you really find out if you're over someone: If you get the opportunity to get even with someone and you don't take it, then you're over it. But if you don't. And you beat the hell outta him, you ain't over it yet." - Madea
"God has the power to show you who's God." - Charles
"No matter what you're going through. Take it to the Master, and he'll see you right on through." - Choir
"Gentle as doves, but wise as serpents." - Tyler Perry
"Sometimes we hold on to the things that God himself is trying to tear apart." - Tyler Perry
"Helen, if I'm away from you for more than an hour, I can't stop thinking about you. I carry you in my spirit. I pray for you more than I pray for myself. I've got it so bad for you I'd... I'd go to the grocery store and buy your feminine products, I swear I would." - Orlando
"I know you don't believe in fairy tales. But, if you did, I'd want to be your knight in shining armor. You've been through so much. I don't want to see you hurt anymore. Now I may not be able to give you all that your used to. But I do know I can love you past your pain. I don't want you to worry about anything. You just wake up in the morning, that's all you have to do and I'll take it from there. There's one condition. You have to be my wife." Orlando to Helen
"Signed a Mad Black Woman"
I love this movie I love this movie I love this movie I love this movie
I’m more sure that certain things happen for a reason. Sometimes doors are closed on opportunities for the better and windows are opened. With some things I have to take charge and seek it full heartedly. Other things I have to wait until the time is right for me. There is reasons for everything I believe. I know God has a plan. It might not be as I thought it would be and it might not be like everyone else’s, but it will be in my favor in the end.
i know it. i feel it.
i know it. i feel it.
As he gets older, our relationship is evolving. His personality and his will are getting more pronounced. We have our private inside jokes and then serious as a judge moments when he hurts my feelings with his insensitity. It's like he's my man or something sometimes! (shame)
but at such a young age, I'm already seeing in him this beautiful manchild full of complexity and innocence. It's beautiful and scary to watch.
Dear God, Thank you for another year of blessings, peace and love with my child
but at such a young age, I'm already seeing in him this beautiful manchild full of complexity and innocence. It's beautiful and scary to watch.
Dear God, Thank you for another year of blessings, peace and love with my child
Lov3 Lik3 by Shihan
It feels so good to be excited about someone again ... even if it doesn't work out, it feels good to get a glimpse of love and that feeling because sometimes, well, we simply forget what it's like.
Found a poet (Shihan) that I absolutely fell in "Love" with hope you like him too '-)
I want a love like me thinking of you thinking of me
thinking of you type love,
or me telling my friends more than I've ever admitted to
myself about how I feel about you type love,
or hating how jealous you are, but loving how much you
want me all to your self type love,
or seeing how your first name just sounds so good next to my last name,
and shit, I wanted to see how far I could get without
calling you, and I barely made it out of my garage.
See, I want a love that makes me wait until she falls
asleep then wonder if she's dreaming about us being in love
type love,
or who loves the other more,
or what she's doing at this exact moment,
or slow dancing in the middle of our apartment to the
music of our hearts, closing my eyes and imagining how a love like this could just hurt so much when she's not there.
Shit, I love not knowing where this love is headed type love.
And check this, I want to place those little post-it notes
all around the house so she never forgets how much I love her type love then not have enough ink in my pen to write all there is to love about her type love.
Hope that I make her feel as good as she makes me feel, I want her to distract me from whatever I'm doing type love
and I want to deal with my friends making fun of me the
way I made fun of them when they went through the same kind of love type love.
Only difference is this is one of those real love type loves.
and just like in high school, I want to spend hours on the phone with her not saying shit,
then fall asleep and wake up with HER right next to me,
and smell her all up in my covers type love
I want to try counting the ways I love her, and then
lose count in the middle just so that I have to start all
over again type love
I want to celebrate one of those month anniversaries even
though they ain't really anniversaries, but doin' it just
cause it makes her happy type love.
And I want to break down the time we spend together into seconds just so it sounds lilke we spend more time together type love
And check this, I want to fall in love with the melody the
phone plays when her number is dialed into it type loves
and then talk to her until I lose my breath, she leaves me breathless, but with the expanding of my lungs I inhale all of her back into me
I want a love that makes me need to change my cell phone calling plan to something that allows me to talk to her longer
because, in all honesty, I want to avoid one of them high cell phone bill type loves.
I want a love that makes me regret how small my hands are
I mean the lines on my palms don't give me enough time to love her as long as I'd like to type loves,
and I want a love that makes me st-st-st-st-stutter just thinking
about how strong this love is type love.
I want a love that makes me want to cut off all my hair...
Well, maybe not all of the hair
maybe just cut the split ends and trim my mustache, but
it will still be a symbol of how strong my love is for her.
And check this, I kinda feel comfortable now, so I can tell y'all this: I even be fantasizing about walking out on a green light just dying to get hit by a car just so I could lose my memory
get transported to some third world country just to get treated then somehow meet up again with you so that I could fall in love with you in a different language to see if it still feels the same type love.
I want a love that's as unexplainable as she is, but I'm married, so she is going to be the one that I share this love with.
Found a poet (Shihan) that I absolutely fell in "Love" with hope you like him too '-)
I want a love like me thinking of you thinking of me
thinking of you type love,
or me telling my friends more than I've ever admitted to
myself about how I feel about you type love,
or hating how jealous you are, but loving how much you
want me all to your self type love,
or seeing how your first name just sounds so good next to my last name,
and shit, I wanted to see how far I could get without
calling you, and I barely made it out of my garage.
See, I want a love that makes me wait until she falls
asleep then wonder if she's dreaming about us being in love
type love,
or who loves the other more,
or what she's doing at this exact moment,
or slow dancing in the middle of our apartment to the
music of our hearts, closing my eyes and imagining how a love like this could just hurt so much when she's not there.
Shit, I love not knowing where this love is headed type love.
And check this, I want to place those little post-it notes
all around the house so she never forgets how much I love her type love then not have enough ink in my pen to write all there is to love about her type love.
Hope that I make her feel as good as she makes me feel, I want her to distract me from whatever I'm doing type love
and I want to deal with my friends making fun of me the
way I made fun of them when they went through the same kind of love type love.
Only difference is this is one of those real love type loves.
and just like in high school, I want to spend hours on the phone with her not saying shit,
then fall asleep and wake up with HER right next to me,
and smell her all up in my covers type love
I want to try counting the ways I love her, and then
lose count in the middle just so that I have to start all
over again type love
I want to celebrate one of those month anniversaries even
though they ain't really anniversaries, but doin' it just
cause it makes her happy type love.
And I want to break down the time we spend together into seconds just so it sounds lilke we spend more time together type love
And check this, I want to fall in love with the melody the
phone plays when her number is dialed into it type loves
and then talk to her until I lose my breath, she leaves me breathless, but with the expanding of my lungs I inhale all of her back into me
I want a love that makes me need to change my cell phone calling plan to something that allows me to talk to her longer
because, in all honesty, I want to avoid one of them high cell phone bill type loves.
I want a love that makes me regret how small my hands are
I mean the lines on my palms don't give me enough time to love her as long as I'd like to type loves,
and I want a love that makes me st-st-st-st-stutter just thinking
about how strong this love is type love.
I want a love that makes me want to cut off all my hair...
Well, maybe not all of the hair
maybe just cut the split ends and trim my mustache, but
it will still be a symbol of how strong my love is for her.
And check this, I kinda feel comfortable now, so I can tell y'all this: I even be fantasizing about walking out on a green light just dying to get hit by a car just so I could lose my memory
get transported to some third world country just to get treated then somehow meet up again with you so that I could fall in love with you in a different language to see if it still feels the same type love.
I want a love that's as unexplainable as she is, but I'm married, so she is going to be the one that I share this love with.
don't lie
Never lie to yourself. And never lie about yourself.
When I was younger, I would lie all the time about the way that I felt. I would tell people that I was perfectly fine when I wasn't. I would tell people that I did something that I really didn't do just to look more likable.
Now, I just feel that if you lie about yourself then you lose who you are ....
.... and who you are is the most precious thing you have.
When I was younger, I would lie all the time about the way that I felt. I would tell people that I was perfectly fine when I wasn't. I would tell people that I did something that I really didn't do just to look more likable.
Now, I just feel that if you lie about yourself then you lose who you are ....
.... and who you are is the most precious thing you have.
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