When he says "I'm not ready for a commitment".

 

When he is scattered, distant, moody and distracted.

 

When his lies oozes easily off his tongue like butter and you eat it all up.

 

When he has a Wife.

 

When he only calls you to hang out because he is bored or horny (or both).

 

When the sex is not as satisfying and over after three long pumps. and leaves you thinking "what the fck".

 

When you make a little noise every now and then while pretending his is the best dick you've ever had.

 

When you're done boosting his ego with bullshit lies.

 

When you cant sleep because you can still taste him in your mouth.

 

When you're low key rolling your eyes, shaking your head and just wondering out loud "what the holy high fck"?

 

You should listen.

 

Listen to what he says and what he doesn’t say. Those unspoken words jump out at you and they won’t allow you to deny them. Watch his actions. Trust your own fcking instincts. That deep down, heart pulling, tummy nagging feeling? The one that says "this shit just isn’t worth it" the one that tells you to leave, walk away, fck walking, run girl run, sprint like Bolt and leave with whatever shred of dignity that remains.

You should listen to that feeling more often and get the drift.

 

All you've ever wanted was to be chosen, but "if he wanted you, wouldn’t he have chosen you" stop being so loose with your body. You're pussy is magical and powerful and not everyone is worthy or entitled to its secrets and hidden caves.

 

Stop pleading with him to "choose me, choose me ... lets make this thing work, lets make this damn thing work like for real"

 

“The women in your family die waiting”, because you don’t want to die waiting - you patiently wait.

 

Have some dignity and take pride in yourself.

 

He doesn’t want this to work, he wants what he wants and what he wants is not all of you. What he wants is to drain you of your energy and time and to suck the life out of your soul. What remains is a black gypsy heart filled with his stench and his dirty fingers mindfcking your brain.

 

Yet you stick around. Patiently. waiting for change.

 

Always wondering why its so easy to hook him but you don’t seem to have what it takes to reel him in.

 

Pathetic.

Why do you subject yourself to being so accessible, open and vulnerable? Who the fck taught you to be so fcking needy.

 

"I am good enough. I am good. I am enough". And repeat.

 

Fck it you're better than just being good enough and not for one second should you take all thiss booshit that these waste man throw at you.

 

You still don't get why you can never find the one. Its because you've been so busy with your head down, eating dick, while getting high on kisses, light touches, sideway glances, and mid afternoon rendezvous. holding on to empty, broken promises.

 

And you miss out.

 

You come off of your high only to crash. Feeling distant, alone, lonely and itching for more.

 

The cycle starts over with a different man in the same position.

 

Never truly satisfied.

 

Adjusts crown slightly.

 

At the end of the day if he wanted to, really wanted to he would have chose you. So stop with the excuses and just be honest with yourself he's told you a million times in a million ways in his actions that he is ready for a commitment - just not ready to have a commitment with you.

 

Coward. Bastard. Lying. Cheating. Motherfckr. Fckn asshole.

If he can't choose to love you now and only whispers the word love in your ear while riding the fck out of you and everything he says after that sounds like liquid sugar dumplings - then he doesn’t get that right to choose to love you when its convenient for him.

 Why should you give him all that power of "choice".

"You deserve the love you give, even if you have to give it to yourself"

Love yourself. Have some respect for yourself.

Life is way too short, to wait around until he decides to love you ...

"In case you forgot you are deserving of the love you've wasted on men who weren't man enough to love you the right way"

Fckn asshole.

Queen make your move.

R.H Sin

in case you forgot
you are deserving
of the love
you've wasted
on men who weren't
man enough
to love you the right way

---

you deserve the love
you give
even if you have
to give it to yourself

You were always Perfect .. and I was only Practice ...

me described by my full name .....

You are very open. You communicate well, and you connect with other people easily. You are a naturally creative person. Ideas just flow from your mind. A true chameleon, you are many things at different points in your life. You are very adaptable. You are truly an original person. You have amazing ideas, and the power to carry them out. Success comes rather easily for you... especially in business and academia. Some people find you to be selfish and a bit overbearing. You're a strong person. You are friendly, charming, and warm. You get along with almost everyone. You work hard not to rock the boat. Your easy going attitude brings people together. At times, you can be a little flaky and irresponsible. But for the important things, you pull it together. You are wild, crazy, and a huge rebel. You're always up to something. You have a ton of energy, and most people can't handle you. You're very intense. You definitely are a handful, and you're likely to get in trouble. But your kind of trouble is a lot of fun. You tend to be pretty tightly wound. It's easy to get you excited... which can be a good or bad thing. You have a lot of enthusiasm, but it fades rather quickly. You don't stick with any one thing for very long. You have the drive to accomplish a lot in a short amount of time. Your biggest problem is making sure you finish the projects you start. You are usually the best at everything ... you strive for perfection. You are confident, authoritative, and aggressive. You have the classic "Type A" personality. You are very intuitive and wise. You understand the world better than most people. You also have a very active imagination. You often get carried away with your thoughts. You are prone to a little paranoia and jealousy. You sometimes go overboard in interpreting signals. You are confident, self assured, and capable. You are not easily intimidated. You master any and all skills easily. You don't have to work hard for what you want. You make your life out to be exactly how you want it. And you'll knock down anyone who gets in your way! You are deeply philosophical and thoughtful. You tend to analyze every aspect of your life. You are intuitive, brilliant, and quite introverted. You value your time alone. Often times, you are grumpy with other people. You don't appreciate them trying to interfere in your affairs.




Take a break from the laundry and cooking to see what the hidden meaning of your name is

why can't we be more than friends?

She done cut me off from a good good love She told me that those days were gone Now I'm sitting here going half crazy I know she still thinks about me too There ain’t no way in hell, that I can be just friends with you I wish we never did it I wish we never loved it I wish I never felt so deep in love with you and now ain't no way we can be friends. The way it felt, no faking it Maybe we were moving just a little too fast What we've done we can’t take it back Now I’m sitting here half way crazy Ain't no telling’ what we could have been, Ain't telling what we could've been If I knew it would end like this I never would have kissed ya, 'cause I fell in love with ya We never would've kicked it, 'cause now everything's different I lost my only lover and my friend that's why I wished we never did it ((Trey Songz, Can't be Friends))

Delete her number.

Stop ringing her. Stop messaging her. Stop making excuses to see her, to drop by her place.

Erase her name from memory. Remove yourself from her life, more completely than you would like but as completely as she deserves. Move on, so that you can allow her to also move on. When you close your eyes, you don’t get to see her face. Not anymore. You don’t get to think about her lips, the warm glow of her skin when she rests next to you, or how she squeezes your hand in her sleep. You are not allowed to remember the smell of her perfume, that she only drinks mint tea (with two dollops of honey), or that she loves you.

She loves you.

She has been in love with you for too long.

So, forget how she says your name. Forget how she calls your name. Forget how she screams your name. Forget that time you got sick and she stayed up with you all night, letting you lay your head in her lap and holding a cold compress to your forehead. Forget how her hair feels in your fingers. Forget how she looks in your sweatshirts.

Forget her.

Know only that she existed at one point in your life, but relinquish all hope that she could exist at another point — sometime in the future that you are unwilling to specify because you don’t know what you want. Yet. It is not fair for you to swoop in and out of her life as you choose. It is not fair for you to say that you are satisfied with “things as they are” and you will have time to “figure it out” later. Let her stop investing emotionally in you. Let her pour that love and care into the people who deserve her.

Don’t tell her that you think about her all the time. Don’t tell her that it bothers you to hear about her with other people, but that you’re willing to understand as long as she likes you more than them. Don’t tell her that this isn’t the right moment but that there will be a right moment. There is not going to be a right moment. She shouldn’t have to wait for the right moment.

Don’t tell her that you can’t handle ultimatums, that you don’t like the idea of finally adding finality to your relationship — whatever still remains of it.

What you are telling her is that you want to keep her on as an option, that you are taking her for granted, that you want to know she will be there, that you can depend on her at the end of the day. When you find that no one else has stuck around or that those who have are less interesting, less thoughtful, or less doggedly loyal to you.

Doggedly loyal to you.

That is what she has been to you, for you almost as long as you have known her: a constant emotional crutch, the guarantee of stability, a safety net while you reach out to grasp objects that sparkle and shine far greater than she does. All that glitters is not gold, haven’t you heard?

She is fire. You are ice, and you are afraid that her slow burn will smolder your cool, hard demeanor. That’s what has driven your decisions, your actions all along: fear. You are a coward. You are a hypocrite. You are terrified to let her go, but you are afraid she is too good for you, that she could drive you wild, that you would choke on her flames. That she is too much for you to handle right now.

Right now.

But if you choose not to love her now, you can’t choose to love her later. — Lauren Hooper

A SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye." Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important. Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together. Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship. What keeps a relationship strong? Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email. Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion. The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the i. By Rev. Ronald McFadden

Remember that ....

I lika a Man who ....

• can teach me something • is confident but not arrogant • commands respect • is an optimist • is not stuck in the past...who did/said what to him, etc. • has varied interests • appreciates the security of stability and strong relationships • has a great sense of humor and doesn't take things too seriously • treats others well • is friendly/sociable • is creative and has a vivid imagination • respects the value of mutual compromise • is sincere • is encouraging • is dependable • is consistent • talks about something other than his past or himself...all...the...time... • handles pressure/stressful situations without letting others see him sweat • understands that honesty may make him slightly vulnerable but never weak • embraces his roles as a provider and protector

Have you forgotten me, she asks? Do you not remember our long walks under unforgiving October suns Barefoot – the baking earth melting our soles I miss your grandmas cucumber A perfect heat remedy Or how she sealed her wisdom in a jar of peanut butter Every spoon full making your bones remember the song of your birth And did I not pour all of times sands into you Using my hands Also borrowing all three hands of time To massage and rub honey and warmth into making you spread your wings Yet today you tell me to leave You say you are an unfortunate lover She says, what is this new song you sing? Chorused with a cacophony of apologies Forget the dreams we forged but do not forget my name For my tears will testify against you And my tongue will tell of the ways you made home in thighs How you made my body quiver I tell her our love was young Little did I know hearts do not number days as minds do And my heart was an unreachable mainland I kept an archipelagos of lovers This is what I thought made me a king… “her forgot me not” by tapiwa mugabe

Death is a challenge. It tells us not to waste time. It tells us to tell each other right now that we love each other. ~ Leo F. Buscaglia

Let 2016 be the year you let go of others perceptions of you and become who you know yourself to be. Go wild, be crazy, get sexy, be funny, be bold, let yourself go and discover a brand new world within yourself. Be brave enough to bring this world to life. That is what life is all about! ~ Mastin Kipp